A Conscious Rethink is owned and operated by Waller Web Works Limited (UK Registered Limited Company 07210604) For a book that is supposed to be about making deep connections, I think the information and examples provided were very shallow. I came out of the book with the same amount of knowledge I had going into the book so...nothing profoundly helpful or groundbreaking here.

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Another approach you can take is to look at those things you are most proud of in your life so far. We all have a unique personality, but it is possible to categorize the various things that make up who we are. The New York Times bestselling author of Get Out of Your Head offers practical solutions for creating true community, the kind that's crucial to our mental and spiritual health. Community type #3: passion. A community of passion is driven by a shared interest in a particular subject; it differs slightly from one based on practice. Let’s say you’re a parrot lover, as my friend Arikia is. Her journal — she’s a writer, so her notebook is often in plain sight — has loads of parrot-related content, so after friends see it, they send her parrot videos and paraphernalia. Arikia also shares anti–animal abuse petitions on social media, so people understand the topic matters to her. Digital tools link her to others who share her passion.

Alex was thinking of moving to the West Coast, where other creative tech types seemed to be heading, and he had a connection there to a tech company for a full-time job. But when that job fell through in January 2006, he decided to give Philadelphia another try — and allowed himself six months to meet as many like-minded people in Philadelphia as he could. “A big part of me thought that this would be fruitless, that what I was looking for didn’t exist,” he says.

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Fast forward. As I read this I absolutely loved the message of building your community. About getting together more with friends. About building your relationships. But then it made me really panic. O my gosh I am an absolutely terrible friend! I have so many terrible flaws. How does my best friend even like me?! I have to immediately text her and apologize for being terrible! The other weak point was on finding people that have time. Allen makes it sound easy to find people who will make time for you. No, she didn’t say that everyone you ask will, but she makes it sound easy. I personally know from experience that just finding people willing to make time can be one of the biggest challenges. I don’t think someone who is popular can understand this challenge well. What would you say is the number one reason you don’t have friends? The main explanation Allen hears people give is that they’re too busy. Instead of setting up a regular time to meet with friends, people squeeze in a lunch date here and there. Or they attend a monthly club where the conversation never really goes beyond the surface. The theory and practice of personality science is fairly well established, and there are many different ways to assess and categorize your personality type.And even though I am a Christian, I felt like this book was beating you over the head with how Jesus is our example of community, how much God loves you, etc. If you want to write a book about why we need Jesus or the importance of biblical community/church then write that book. She could have had one chapter on the biblical model of community/friendship and moved on. It felt like she didn't have enough actual friendship content/suggestions so every chapter was a little bit of tips and LOTS of repetition about how much God wants us to live in community with others. Overall, I was unimpressed with this book and did not find much at all helpful to me personally. For this generation Jennie Allen is the vulnerable voice we need, and with Find Your People she has provided a beacon-illuminated map that is as practical as it is inspiring. Read this and find your people. Read this and find the life you have been hungering and thirsting for. Read this and find Jesus.” —Curt Thompson, MD, author of The Soul of Desire and The Soul of Shame You deserve to have friendships where there’s an equal give and take. Friends who understand you, and you have fun, true, silly little kid fun (even if, and especially if, you never got to truly have fun as a kid, because you were already basically an adult). Friends who allow and encourage you to have healthy boundaries, as they work to establish their own. There’s a God-built longing inside each of us: to be about something other than our own individual success. If you want good friends, then run a race together, build a house together, cook a meal together, or live for the greatest mission together a human can have: giving God away together. Be on... I really thought I’d have friends by now. Don’t get me wrong, I have people I talk to who I really like. I have people I laugh with and see once every six months, people who text me and say we should do something soon, and we might even make plans, but then we each hope the other will cancel because we’re both tired. I have those, yes. But I really thought I’d have friends by now, in the way I understood friendship to mean as a child.