Bedtime Spankings: Tears Before Bedtime!

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For Both: Make sure your child wears comfortable PJs that aren’t too tight and are appropriate for the season. Of course," she had continued contemplatively, "I won't deny it's rare that a boy in his final year would find himself subject to the threat of corporal punishment, but I assure you there's nothing in the rulebook that says I cannot discipline a member of my tutor group in whatever manner I deem to be the most appropriate."

Miss Sternwood's aim was always unerring, her power never diminishing, her strength fully gathered in the ten to fifteen seconds that she habitually allowed between strokes. Once the fifth red stripe had been added to the melee, a horizontal two inch band of densely grouped red tramlines positively glowed, cheek to cheek, all the way across Thomas's bottom. However, spanking at bedtime may create a fear-based compliance rather than a genuine understanding of bedtime’s importance. It's a rare sight, and of course it never lasts for long! The photo below focuses on the stingy aftermath of our short spanking movie, Plaid Miniskirt Spanking. Mummy was a perfect product of the 1950’s. A dutiful housewife who had kept an excellent house since the day she married. Sadly her husband was no longer around, but stoically, with a stiff upper lip and a gallon of fortitude, she had carried on running the house, her home, with pride.Are you decent?" she asked a couple of minutes later, already knowing from her reflected view that he was busy with his tie. She turned her chair as soon as he replied and watched until he had pulled on his blazer and straightened the collar. I do not think that I in this am very different from women in general so I dare to say that a lot of wives would be happy and the number of divorces would decrease drastically if more husbands took on them the heavy burden of responsibilities that come with headship and being authorities and disciplinarians. A: Consistency is key. Establish a calming bedtime routine that your child looks forward to, such as reading a book or taking a warm bath. This helps signal to your child that it’s time to wind down and prepare for sleep. A poor crying Karen thought it was over, but Mummy was reaching for the slipper. Karen looked to the mirror and saw it, she looked over her shoulder, up to meet her Mummy’s eyes. This article is worth reading because it provides nuanced insights and suggests alternative approaches to establish a peaceful bedtime routine. What Triggers Bedtime Struggles in Toddlers?

Spanking can also be damaging to the parent-child relationship, fostering resentment and affecting the child’s emotional development. Quora and Public Opinion: What are People Saying? Both emotionally and intellectually I appreciate my husband’s headship and his quite strict and authoritarian leadership style very much and I know that I am most happy and content when I am dutiful and compliant so my husband is pleased with me and approving of my behaviour and attitude. We all have sorrows and disappointments in our lives and life would not even be really complete and fulfilling without also some adversity and disappointments but basically, I am happy, have a fulfilling life and feel that I, without having deserved it, have been very privileged. When he’s being good, the last thing I think about is giving him a discipline spanking. I don’t like the idea of hurting him for no reason. And after talking about it, he too mentioned that he doesn’t like the possibility of, after a week of being helpful, productive, and not a brat, that he’d get spanked at the end of the week anyway. A: Spanking older children can lead to feelings of shame and fear, and may damage the parent-child relationship. It may also make it harder for the child to fall asleep and stay asleep due to stress or anxiety. Red faced before such a beautiful and impeccably attired young woman whom he had secretly admired for so long, and barely knowing how to present himself, he found his fingers nervously playing with the hem of his white cotton shirt and his bare feet fidgeted on the well worn and slightly scratchy wool carpet.

Is Spanking an Effective Way for a Toddler to Go to Bed?

So... aaaanyway, let's start with this still from a private movie clip, featuring a wooden hairbrush and a plaid schoolgirl mini-skirt. I find wooden implements are always super-stingy and I was really feeling this one! For Both: Avoid giving food and especially caffeinated drinks before bedtime as they can interfere with sleep. The Vicar at Saint Hugh’s Church used her as an example many times. “If you are not sure what to do, go and see her, she’ll have probably done it before, she’s marvellous!”

They may refuse to go to bed or get out of bed multiple times, sometimes to go potty, or simply because they want to avoid bedtime. For Older Children: This could be a good time for a brief chat about their day, making sure to keep the conversation light and positive. Breathless and a little light headed, he knew with absolute certainty that the tales of his Housemisstress's disciplinary prowess had not been exaggerated. Still looking down at the desktop, he was aware of movement somewhere behind him and heard a light rattle of cane against furniture as she replaced it on its discreet hook between her two bookcases. Another potential pitfall for us is that oftentimes, when Joey has earned a woodshed whoopin’, he’ll just continue down the road of being bad as he knows he’s going to get it anyway and might as well go out in a “blaze of glory”. So I could see him, knowing that he’s going to get it later in the day, just being a brat because he knows he’s going to get spanked anyway. OR…perhaps he’d act up so he actually felt like he did something to be spanked for? Hmmm… She remembered how he had looked downcast by her uncharacteristic outburst, his cheeks blushing pink, and she had relented, trying to be more encouraging.The other thing that occurred to me was the thought that it could become like a chore. Time to take out the garbage, time to wash the car, time to vacuum the dining room, time to spank my husband. LOL. Spanking at bedtime can disturb this calm, making it difficult for your child to fall asleep or sleep through the night. This disrupts the aim of having them go to bed and sleep well. What are the Best Nighttime Routines for Toddlers? Taking up her cane by the inside of its perfectly rounded crook handle, she stood, gently flexing it before running her fingers along its smooth length. Cool to her fingertips, it was carefully sanded at each joint and slightly rounded at the tip.

Regardless of public opinion, it is important to consider the best interests of your child and the research available on the topic. Should I Change My Mind About Spanking? Genuinely sorry to have disappointed her, Thomas had seemed eager to reassure, but before he could reply, Miss Sternwood had risen from her seat and retrieved something long and slender from a hand-sized gap that was conveniently, but quite discreetly, left open between two of her bookcases. It is a terribly embarrassing situation to be in and also a situation characterised by the frightened thoughts it causes when the unforeseen consequences of my misbehaviour make it dawn on me that my deviation from acceptable behaviour was not as risk-free and innocent as I foolishly had persuaded myself to believe. A: Changing from a punitive method like spanking to a more empathic approach can significantly improve your child’s sleep quality and emotional well-being. It also fosters a better parent-child relationship. External Resources: That is no ordinary school-cane several had insisted, with some boys speculating it must have been treated with exotic and forbidden oils to imbue it with additional stinginess. Others took the view she had been coached by a tennis pro until her forehand swing was capable of delivering strokes of hitherto unprecedented power.Look, I know it's not always an easy transition from the rules and hand-holding of the junior years. All I want is to see you really focus on your grades for a few months. I've tried encouragement, I've tried cajoling, I've discussed your work with your parents, and I seem to remember we even resorted to a couple of Saturday morning homework detentions. Quite frankly there are very few options remaining."