Professional Dommes are similar to professional dominatrices regarding the kind of services they offer. They, too, can be on the expensive side, but not usually as expensive as a professional dominatrix. Again, in larger cities, you may find them locally. Also, there are many of them online. Some charge per hour for sessions like their dominatrix sisters, but some offer basic enforced chastity keyholding services at a standard weekly rate. I’ve used one such online service, which was very reasonable in price. Many people wear chastity belts simply because they wish to remain celibate. This may be motivated by religious or personal beliefs about the sanctity of marriage. Perhaps it simply stems from a disinterest in sex and a desire to protect oneself from threats that would otherwise compromise one’s chastity. Either way, wearing a chastity belt for this reason generally brings about it a sense of calm. Aside from any religious connotations that may contribute to the feeling, the calm is likely due to the fact that the wearer no longer has to worry about sexuality in its entirety. It no longer concerns them, and they’re free to devote their time and mental resources to other things.

In the modern-day, infidelity usually ends up with a divorce. But occasionally it doesn’t. Sometimes, the victim of the infidelity will find it in their heart to forgive their cheating partner, with one condition. They have to be punished. And sometimes, wearing a chastity belt is part of that punishment. In this case, the psychological impact of wearing a chastity belt can be extremely potent. The wearer cannot run from the reminder of their betrayal, as it encases the anatomy of their infidelity. It cannot be taken off unless with a key, usually held by the cheater's spouse. The shame must be unbearable, especially because you can never ignore a steel cage around your privates. Every time you move, you feel its weight shift with yours, constantly guilt-tripping you for the things that you’ve done. The truth is, there are something like 3.5 billion females on the planet. Unless a guy is a castaway on some deserted island, it’s hard to make the case he has no one to ask to be his keyholder. But, if you’re too shy to ask a female you know, or too afraid she will think you’re a freak for the asking, then you have other options. The ProfessionalsWho did I recruit for this mission? My neighbor. She was (she moved later) an airline flight attendant and married to a successful engineer. We live in a city with row houses with common walls. We knew that she and her husband had a happy sexually fulfilling marriage — thanks to the common walls. We knew them pretty well and had the occasional dinner. Her husband was a runner and it was obvious that he was in good shape. I confided in her and asked her to be the key holder. She immediately thought it would be great fun. Unfortunately, her husband was not amused and was not willing to participate in any way. I didn’t tell my husband, but simply invited her over for coffee about a week later. She was wearing the key. As noted in the first part of this post, a keyholder can be anyone as long as that person consents to fill the role. Most commonly for men in relationships, it is the caged male’s wife or intimate partner. A guy not in a relationship doesn’t have this built-in option. That can make finding a keyholder at least somewhat more challenging. But it is not impossible. Chastity For Lust And The Fun Of It All In both cases, you just need to do a good job of explaining to them your interest in chastity and what you want them to do. And make sure you tell them that if they agree to be your keyholder, they are allowed to exercise their independent judgment about when they give you releases. Not everyone wears a chastity belt out of personal desire or punishment. Some wear it out of love for their partners. In the high-speed world that we live in, it’s possible to be married to someone on the other side of the earth. The great distance limits the chances for physical intimacy, so, a loyal spouse will wear a chastity belt to avoid acting on any sexual urges in their partner's absence. While others might feel shame or calm, these people must feel invigorated. They wear their chastity belts as a reminder of their love and loyalty and it must fill them with determination to have a happy and healthy relationship. Chastity devices are an ideal way for partners to tease each other. What’s more, they achieve arousal and orgasm denial, which is the main goal of chastity.

While I’ll not openly profess any significant experience in this field, I have spoken to someone with vast knowledge on the subject of chastity and psychology. Mistress K, a lifestyle dominant woman and owner of the House of Denial on-line store, which exclusively sells male chastity cages, is very familiar with the effects a chastity device has on someone. Our aim is to offer high quality products at affordable prices with discreet worldwide delivery. Many chastity belts that we've seen on the market are incredibly expensive and we don't think that's particularly fair, so we do our best to offer the best devices for the lowest prices. All of our products are thoroughly tested to ensure that you receive a safe, quality item that you’re happy to use on a regular basis. Finally I want to highlight the psychological impact of chastity on the person that doesn’t wear the cage. As a keyholder (the person that keeps the key to someone’s chastity device) there are expectations and pressures that many won’t consider. You hold the key to someone’s happiness and enjoyment in your hands. In my relationship I know the commitment it takes taking on my role and I accept that with pleasure, but for others that dedication might be too much to handle. Know your limits and communicate openly, otherwise you’ll likely fail.” You don’t have to be cruel, and you certainly don’t have to listen to anyone tell you ‘you shouldn’t let him cum’. I never understood that as a working practice anyway.The reason for wearing a chastity belt is fairly simple; it helps you remain celibate. But that isn’t what I am interested in. I want to know why somebody would wear a chastity belt. What motivates them to wear it. And do the psychological effects of wearing one differ depending on your reasoning? From what I’ve been able to gather, there are three reasons why people would choose to wear a chastity belt. Firstly, they desire to remain celibate. Secondly, they are forced to as a form of atonement. And thirdly, they wish to keep themselves from committing adultery. As ever, the language used changes from person to person, but as you can probably guess, this is about getting someone closer and closer, before denying and cutting off their orgasm. Once you are in an ideal state and ready to attach the device, treat lubricant as your new best friend! Ideally use a water based lube that won’t interfere with the material of your device (silicone lube should not be used with silicone devices) and apply liberally to your genitals (shaft and testicles), you can also apply a small amount to the inside of the device but be aware you may then need to wear gloves to allow some friction to keep hold of the device during the next steps! Steer clear of any “tingle” or “heat” type novelty lubes and consider what will be best for your long-term comfort. 4. The base ring In the world of orgasm control, where, when and whether you want your sub to orgasm or not is completely up to you. It’s great fun to try over long distance, or just to see how far you can push your sub.