Punishments can be corporal or reflective. Both work well, you need to figure out with your Dominant or submissive, which is best for you. Either way, corrections of missteps help deepen the connection between you and help strengthen the relationship. The Dominant can be more affectionate and the submissive can be more pleasing. Really, it’s for the submissive’s own good. When you’re working full time, the desire to submit can be impeded by a good number of obstacles. As a submissive who balances their full-time employment with their submissive role, one of their most concerns will always be finding a way to please their dominant while maintaining a strong professional image outside of the home. Regardless, it was difficult to find any information about balancing a professional life with the submissive desires, so this article is dedicated to the people who, wish to explore the D/s relationship dynamic and continue to work in the business world. I do rely on you being completely honest and telling me if you haven’t been a good boy and broken some rules. You should never be afraid to tell me anything. Caning- This type of spanking happens when the blows are delivered by a thin cane made of rattan across your behind. The cane can be a single rod or a bundle. Any time the Dominant wants the submissive focusing on something, a task is a great way to implement that focus. Be creative. When it comes to tasks, the only limit is your imagination.

Tasks are a perfect solution to all the above. They give you something to do; they give you a chance to prove yourself; they give you a chance to show that you are better than everyone else. Essays- This should have the submissive explain the rule that was broken, why the rule is important, and why they must follow through with this consequence. Writing an essay forces the submissive to put into words what happened. It could even be structured in the way of an apology that has three parts: 1) I’m sorry for ____ 2)I need to follow this rule because ______, and 3)In the future I will do _____ to follow the rules set by my Dominant because he has my best interests in mind. Keep in mind: ChastityDungeon.com is designed to be used along a normal, everyday lifestyle. Our goal is to provide long-term chastity training and engagement; not short-term scenarios where you want something to do for a couple of hours. As such, you will only get an average of one task a day. Rules in BDSM are a list of expectations that, once agreed on, should be done when specified without prompting. Rules should be negotiated and discussed before they are carried out.When you’re on the receiving end of this type of punishment you may be asked to count the number of strikes. Counting aloud can really drive home the importance of the rule and the consequence for breaking it. However, if an unwritten rule is broken, don’t assume the submissive knows what the rule is. Communicate, and use discipline as your means of correction, not punishment. Can rules change? An essay about adult punishment in female led relationships OR every relationship has rules. This is how to enforce them During the day, if I wish to change clothing or take an item off, I must ask permission to do so. Grooming/Hygiene: A submissive naturally wants to please their Dominant. It’s who we are at our core. We want to make others happy. It is what we need to feel whole. But it has to be with a Dom that won’t abuse their power. A Dom that will want to nurture our need to please; knowing that if they know how to exercise their control correctly, they will be given the most precious gift they can be given. They will be given the trust and full devotion of their sub.

Other, lighter offenses are classically punished by denial of orgasm, tease & denial, ruined orgasm and humiliating things. And there are a number of other penalties as well. Learning goals and rewards begin with your selecting what he is to learn. He will ask for a reward of his choosing (you can limit his choices by using a list). You will teach him and watch his progress. When he learns the task, he has met his goal and is to be commended. When he shows prolonged retention of that learning he gets the reward. Training your man by coachingI do not take any responsibility for any injury, accident, or illness that occurs as a result of your time in chastity.