Losing It: A taboo-busting guide to sex and relationships that debunks the myths you were taught at school.

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sophia smith galer covers a range of topics with nuance and empathy, including virginity/virility myths, inceldom, and "sexlessness".

She uses factual reference from various studies to back up points, but also interviews with a variety of people affected by a lack of proper sex-positive knowledge plus her own anecdotal references; this makes it a very accessible read and one which should be made widely available. This virginity obsession surrounds us, impeding what could be an easy, equitable journey into sexual maturity. It's a good book and I'm glad I took the time to read it but I think it may struggle to find it's place/readership. Sophia Smith Galer is honest about her own experiences which also gives you the reassurance you need.I remember in school the main focus of Sex Ed was about protecting yourself against STDs and pregnancy. We are constantly expanding our range of books, social stationery and calendars, with all the leading publishers and suppliers. Quintiliano responds by imprisoning her in a brothel, torturing her and chopping off her breasts in fury.

Smith Galer, a senior news reporter at VICE World News with a 388K-strong following on TikTok, allows readers to reflect on the real-life impact these myths have on us as individuals.This book touches on many important myths such as virility, celibacy (voluntary and involuntary), and the influence of religions and even social media when it comes to our fears and worries about first time sex and sex education in general. Ebooks fulfilled through Glose cannot be printed, downloaded as PDF, or read in other digital readers (like Kindle or Nook). After that he disappeared, but I want to find another man, one true to his word, to do the same thing: pics and talking in exchange of money. From the get go, losing it exposes the lack of sex education in the education system, and I can vouch for this. We also share information about your use of our site with our social media, advertising and analytics partners.

She is the first BBC journalist to be on TikTok and has accrued over 200,000 followers across social media.Where women have long been harmed by the virginity myth, in which sexual inexperience increases their desirability, men have been harmed by the opposite idea – that sexual experience, prowess and success improves their status: the virility myth. Some chapters are better and more fully developed than others, but ultimately I think I was craving a more rigorous and investigative book than Losing It ever professed to be. If you feel this doesn’t apply to you, that is hopefully because you grew up in an environment where you were exposed to healthy ideas around masculinity. From Malik, an asexual who wants to be in a loving but sex-free relationship, to Blair, who cried the first time she held hands with a man because she believed she was 'cheating' on her future husband.

She draws on her own experiences – and the expertise of a new generation of sex educators – to uncover a world that subscribes to a wide catalogue of sex myths. She also raises a number of very important medical issues and briefly explores how to get help for some of these. Tales about online virginity auctions have featured in the British tabloid media for decades now; even suspect auction sites alleging to sell women’s virginities for millions claim column inches in media outlets such as the Daily Mail, who not only fail to do due diligence on them, but also fetishise the ‘proven’ virginities of such women, who have somehow obtained certificates from medical professionals. Global unemployment is increasing, and just before the pandemic hit, trends were suggesting that the number of men who hadn’t had sex in the past year had increased threefold; it is likely that spending longer periods of time in education and living with your parents is having an impact on young men’s ability to perform virility.Across three studies, Lauri Jensen-Campbell and her colleagues found that women do go for ‘dominant men’, but crucially, not dominance alone; they go for dominance with pro-social behaviours such as being agreeable or helping others. Self-proclaimed ‘Worst Online Dater’ is an internet figure who has conducted social experiments to try to demystify dating algorithms, and his conclusion on Tinder, the world’s most popular dating app with 55 billion matches to date, is that it ‘can actually work, but pretty much only if you are an attractive guy’. Our languages enshrine virginity’s role as a commodity; in English, virginity is lost or taken, for one-time use – a perishable good. In Talmudic literature, virgins are entitled to increased alimony in the event of a divorce, which is double that of a widow’s; no similar privilege exists for male virgins. No matter that the school spent the rest of the time telling us to study hard so that we could get into top universities and careers.