Duygu Yoldaşlığı’nı okuduğumda, kadın olarak sevgiyi almaya ve vermeye dair kolektif ihtiyacımızı feminist politika çerçevesinde hiç konuşmadığımızı fark ettim. This book is a must for anyone who has ever found it difficult dealing with a man who doesn't express his emotions, and for anyone who hates 'Women are from Venus, Men are from Mars' type thinking! Romantic friendships are a threat to patriarchy and heterosexism because they fundamentally challenge the assumption that being sexual with someone is essential to all meaningful, lasting, intimate bonds.

bir de orta yaşlarında olan kadınlardan daha genç yaştaki biz kadınlara inatla "kendinizi sevin" tavsiyesi geliyorsa, epeyce ciddiye almak gerekir. this book was written almost 25 years ago and although there were a few times where i was like hmmmm ya okay this book is as old as i am, so much of it was still so relevant. In Communion, hooks celebrates the experiences of women over thirty, shares collective wisdom, and bestows on us the lessons learned as we practice the art of loving. Perhaps it used to be even less cool, but with so many people these days thinking that equality has been achieved, or even that we’ve gone too far, and with many of the “visible” problems that early feminists addressed seemingly on the way out, bolding proclaiming your feminism today has the potential of making you seem even more out of touch than it did in the 60s or 70s. being “great point / good insight”) which is a pretty high rate for a book that I expected to love and overall think is really worthwhile.In chapter three, Looking for love, finding freedom, she makes a case that “ men who oppressed women did not do so because they acted simply from the space of free will; but they were in their own way agents of a system they had not put in place. Her writing focused on the interconnectivity of race, class, and gender and their ability to produce and perpetuate systems of oppression and domination.

It didn't give me the same feeling of power/energy to love like All About Love did—what were my illusions? The more able a woman is to assert agency on behalf of her well-being, the less desirable she may be in the patriarchal culture. Like hooks, I've learned to find all the love I need in spiritual practice and community, and while I long for an intimate romantic partnership, I know I will be OK without it.And yet bell hook’s book, and indeed her career—both brimming with feminist philosophy—would not be relevant if “incredible social equality between the sexes” was actually the case. Maybe include more women, though, I get she's writing for women over 30, mainly women who love men, and stuff. shout outs to bell for helping start this conversation that we needed at the beginning of the 21st century.