Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them: When Love Hurts and You Don't Know Why: When Loving Hurts And You Don't Know Why

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Its symptoms are aggressive – mental and physical abuse characterised by shouting, screaming, extreme jealousy and possessiveness, and insistence on financial and organisational authority. We don’t mind talking about women as a group, and about violence against women as a phenomenon, but we do so as though it is something that just happens. The boy from suffocating mothers can also internalize the belief he can’t survive without the mother, and that he can project that sense of dependency onto all women in his life. Over time, the project grew into a small and generally supportive online community, where men and women shared their fears, frustrations and unhappiness. That is what makes it so easy to focus on women’s dress, behaviour and choices when we consider sexual violence.

Once you know that there are hundreds of thousands of people out there despising women to the point that many of them believe we should all be exterminated, you can never un-know it. The child must be constantly designing her behavior either to avoid the parent's wrath or to get the parent's approval. As a matter of fact, that type of thinking will only keep her stuck is an abusive relationship for longer.This is the woman who is fully independent, possibly successful and high power in her work, only to revert to helpless child in her relationship. I wanted to lay bare the reality of a hate movement, the very existence of which we have completely failed to acknowledge, and ask: what is attracting boys and men to this ideology?

Men Who Hate Women is a book that will disturb, infuriate, challenge, and perhaps change you, for the better.

It is tempting to dismiss the sites of the manosphere as mere sad little cesspools, but what Bates’s patient, thorough approach reveals is much worse. It is an interconnected spectrum of different but related groups, each with their own rigid belief systems, lexicons and forms of indoctrination. If a child is also a victim of physical and/or sexual abuse, the symptoms of distress will be much greater.

It has to be cleverer than that, because the only way it can become so wildly, phenomenally successful, the only way it can be so cleverly camouflaged as to be almost undetectable, is if its arteries creep outwards from that black heart of violent hate, wending their way through online pathways and webbing out across social media platforms, splitting and dividing into finer and finer capillaries, infiltrating chatrooms, reaching out through message boards, sniffing tentatively at the air and taking the leap out of the dank realms of the internet altogether, slithering offline, penetrating our pubs and sliding around street corners, twirling delicately up the wooden legs of kitchen tables, peeping into corridors of power, burrowing into institutions and workplaces, fanning out tendrils across talk shows and newsrooms, taking deeper and deeper root until they’re part of the very fabric of our shared consciousness. The misogynist has an extensive repertoire of scare tactics, insults, denigrating comments, and other intimidating behavior designed to make his partner feel inadequate and helpless. She also implies that pornography incites misogyny and/or cruelty, and I also found that not to be true. När modern är villig att låta sonen etablera sin egen identitet genom att låta honom ta risker på egen hand och låta honom göra sina egna misstag, och ändå finns till hands om han skulle behöva henne, bidrar hon till att skapa en människa som har förtroende för sig själv och sin förmåga. Nearly 50 years later, this still sounds like it might be worth a try, especially in a modern culture formed around such ossified, regressive stereotypes that it can seem society has become much more sexist even since the 1990s.

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And this stuff filters upwards through friendly media and middlemen such as far-right commentator Milo Yiannopoulos, so that men at the top can speak in code to their supporters. Many women in such situations comfort themselves by saying, "I didn't do anything, so how can I be guilty? Imagine a world in which a vast network of incels and other misogynists are able to operate, virtually undetected. I realised that ideas that had previously been confined to the murkiest corners of the internet were taking on new life, hiding in plain sight. Those who speak of ‘toxic masculinity’ are not criticising men, but rather defending them: describing an ideology and a system that pressures the boys and men in our societies, in our families, to conform to unrealistic, unhealthy and unsustainable ideals.

This book will explore the links in the chain, from incels to pickup artists, Men Going Their Own Way to Men’s Rights Activists, and how they exist as a kind of living, breathing ecosystem in close, symbiotic relationships with other online communities like white supremacists and trolls. Many misogynists use bullying and macho behavior toward women to defend against these unacceptable feelings of vulnerability. Imagine a world in which vulnerable men, lost boys and confused, scared teenagers are swept up and preyed upon by such communities, which feed on their fears and push them towards hatred, violence and self-destruction.