Male Chastity: A Guide for Keyholders

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Just because he’s submissive doesn’t mean he’s not a red-blooded male; the simple fact of being locked up might satisfy him at first but what he really needs is to be at the mercy of a loving, teasing, sexually-charged keyholder who makes erotic, sensual or other demands of him – even though she prefers to keep him under lock and key most of the time. Remember, male chastity doesn’t suit everyone; just as he must respect your wishes if you decide it’s not for you, so you must respect his (but by all means keep trying to persuade him if you like; the worst out comes is that you both have a lot of fun! Think about it: the fact that your man is sexually submissive means that he wants you to take control in the bedroom.

Managing his Libido For many keyholders, the issue of how long to keep him locked up will be the most interesting/vexing/frustrating/intriguing (pick your adjective) question concerning male chastity. The nature of your relationship is such that your man is able to trust you, without felling he must conceal a crucial part of himself from you. Since there’s no internationally accepted scale for measuring the male libido, your man should record whatever numbers seem appropriate. It's well written and is there for the female keyholder who is new to the world of chastity or has already some experience but could use some background, tips and understanding of how her submissive husband/friend is wired. Devices equipped with an integral lock instead of a removable padlock are a different matter; even if the device could be cut without risking an injury to its wearer, he’ll end up damaging an expensive custom chastity device instead of an off-the-shelf padlock.If he can’t co-operate for the purposes of this exercise – well, you must draw your own conclusions. Stamp your own mark on the proceedings rather than following his script – and make it clear that he scenario is happening because you want it. The whole point of a sexual fantasy is that you get to fill in the details of what happens for yourself, so it’s hardly surprising that a man should come up with ideas that turn him on. There’s no way you’ll ever keep him from fantasizing (not that you should even want to) but you can be sure of one thing: if you lock up his penis and hold his key, all future auditions for parts in his fantasy life will be canceled.

Exercise One: Voluntary Chastity The first exercise involves you placing your man in voluntary chastity. And last but not least, you will also be providing him with an unforgettably frustrating erotic experience. There’s no male equivalent to the concept of ‘unladylike behavior’; given privacy (and sometimes without it) they just scratch, tug and readjust as necessary.whenever you like – taking his hand, fixing his tie, straightening his lapels, or simply touching his back can be a powerful reminder of his condition and your role in it. Presuming he’s becoming hornier by the second day, he would record a ‘2’ and a ‘1’ indicating that he’s a little hornier but not yet feeling significantly more frustrated, and so on. Alternatively, if you wish to reassure him, you could touch or fondly whatever is reachable (which might just be the enclosing metal or plastic at this point) and tell him that you’ll miss his penis and wish it wasn’t necessary to keep it confined for so long (but that it’s for his own good). So after a while, the fact that he is locked into a chastity device will fade into the background – but for him, at least, it will seldom disappear completely.