I'm Ok, You're Ok: A Practical Approach to Human Psychology

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At some stage early in our lives we adopt a “position” about ourselves and others that determines how we feel about everything we do. I’m OK – You’re OK is the place you want to end up (“a mature adult, at peace with themselves and others”). Harris provides practical suggestions regarding how to stay in the Adult ego state, despite the provocation. Demand for the book was tremendous, and today it sits comfortably in the pantheon of self-help titles that have sold over ten million copies.

When Penfield touched a certain point on the patient’s brain, the patient would make seemingly random statements, such as describing a previous conversation or a popular television commercial. You can use his life's work to gain status, promotions, confidence, and mates by joining Power University.The phrase I'm OK, You're OK is a common cliché in Anglophone culture, at least among an older generation more accustomed to hearing the phrase.

I'm OK, you're OK‘ is implicitly fundamental in the theory, practice, and teaching of Transactional Analysis, yet the meaning of the phrase has not been specified in the literature. Always it has been seen as a conflict: the conflict between good and evil, the lower nature and the higher nature, the inner man and the outer man. Thomas Harris says that all games have their origin in the childhood game of ‘Mine Is Better Than Yours’. And even though it was never intended that way, I consider it a fundamental book to understand power dynamics. During the course of brain surgery, in treating patients suffering from focal epilepsy, Penfield conducted a series of experiments during which he touched the temporal cortex of the brain of the patient with a weak electric current transmitted through a galvanic probe.

Harris used Berne’swork as a basis for his own, but instead of analyzing the games we play, focused on the internal voices that speak to us all the time in the form of archetypal characters: the Parent, the Adult and the Child (the PAC framework). I stood in the lobby of a theater at the end of the showing of the motion picture Who’s Afraid of Virginia Woolf? Linking motility of the child to reassurance and later the “going for a walk” of the adult as a way of regaining certainty is certainly plausible, but it seems a huge stretch to me. In parallel with those Parent recordings, the Child is a simultaneous recording of internal events—how life felt as a child. It has given a new answer to people who want to change rather than to adjust, to people who want transformation rather than conformation.

I’m Ok, You’re Ok (1969) is a valuable guide to understanding how our past experiences and memories affect our life in the present. Some parents unknowingly undermine treatment efforts because they really do not want to give up the Parent-Child relationship(. I wish to thank a number of people for their support of, and contribution to, the effort involved in writing this book. Under the compelling influence of the probe a familiar experience appeared in the patient’s consciousness whether he desired to focus his attention upon it or not.Tentative names were given to the combatants: the Superego became thought of as the restrictive, controlling force over the Id (instinctual drives), with the Ego as a referee operating out of enlightened self-interest. The moment transaction analysis tried to shoehorn every behavior into its model, it became obvious that not everything fits into it. I first became acquainted with Berne’s new method of treatment through a paper that he presented at the Western Regional Meeting of the American Group Psychotherapy Association in Los Angeles in November 1957. That man can aspire to and achieve goodness is evident through all of history, however that goodness may be understood.

Their position of power is threatened when the adolescent starts operating in the Adult; unless the parents are equally Adult, the transactions will cross.Perhaps the most significant discovery was that not only past events are recorded in detail but also the feelings that were associated with those events. That's why it may happen that people choose and believe in other life positions than "I'm ok, you're ok". Using the revolutionary psychological and psychiatric procedures of Transactional Analysis, this book will inspire and empower all its readers. Each person chooses one of the four positions as a toddler as a basic disposition and will most likely keep it for a lifetime.