Even though the spankings I give him are very real and very painful (even to the point of tears), he has told me on many occasions that he appreciates me holding him accountable in this way. He has told me that he feels no resentment for the spanking as it was earned and that he feels a sense of calm and balance afterwards. Side note…after a good spanking…he is a model citizen around here – very eager to please, in a great mood and very productive! Some of you may be thinking I shouldn’t have to punish my husband as if he were a child. He’s a grown adult for God’s sake. Others who know better may be thinking, I have no problem with the idea of punishing my husband, but he is bigger and stronger than me and I don’t think he would simply agree to accept punishment from me. The answer to those thoughts are “Yes, you do” and “Yes he will.” Note that she didn’t ask me whether I agreed with her decision that a spanking was coming. Rather, she asked me whether I agreed with the underlying facts. After that, the decision on how to proceed was all hers. It was a perfect relationship for both of us. She enjoyed the control as much as inflicting the punishment, and I got off on it too. My behaviour improved dramatically, our sex life was explosive too. We eventually broke up for other reasons, but I miss that relationship tomthus day.

Discipline and punishmentis a difficult area in a loving FLR. I have a marriage based on love and the implicit agreement of the transfer of power to one person: me. So this gives me challenges. She stepped near him again and stroked his cheek. Then she gave him a deep long kiss, reminding him why he would thrill to submit to her. Even though I’ve been in a Female-Led Relationship (FLR) that includes F/m discipline (spanking) for over fifteen years and am a big advocate of couples exploring the lifestyle, I’ve always cautioned that it’s not a panacea, especially where big, gnarly individual or relationship issues are concerned. It’s kind of like how in mindfulness meditation you learn to separate your thoughts from your feelings about those thoughts. Communication problems exacerbate the bigger problem When the husband feels the bottom line is rejection or its threat he resents his wife because, as I’ve said, he feels he is the one doing the favor by staying in the relationship. He will think to himself, If she thinks she can do so much better without me, let her try. He may even say this at times. And where do you go from there? Most women in a marriage, especially if there are children, feel even more trapped than their husbands. Because a mother’s commitment to her children is stronger than even the best of fathers and because she knows it is best for the children that the marriage stay together, most wives do not want to make good on their threat of rejection. This increases her despair and makes her feel even more powerless to affect her husband’s behavior.I won’t go into the details, other than to say that my wife and I both recently gave up our careers and are experimenting with early retirement. We both thought that would result in spending a lot more time together, but it hasn’t really worked out that way. Lately, there has been an uncharacteristically large amount of friction around priority setting. Yet, while I do think FLR disciplinary relationship probably is best suited for dealing with smaller issues, a recent argument with my wife made me think through some of the nuances a bit more and ultimately conclude that imposed discipline can help on some big relationship stressors as well. No, baby, you’ve been a good husband lately. I know you’ve been trying hard, and I’m proud of you. But darling, are you allowed to question me when I tell you to bring me the paddle?”

I had been allowing my bad mood to fester, up to the very point at which she made it clear she was going to do something about the communication issue. I meant to ask you later that night, but you’d fallen asleep before I joined you in bed. So, answer me now. How embarrassing was saying goodnight like that to our friends?” Once your man has accepted your chastity control, and submitted to your spankings, a new opportunity for growth, obedience, and happiness awaits both partners. You can directly influence your man's way of thinking by applying relaxed, hypnotic like situations, combined with immobility and repetitive spanking. You can target specific behavior, or general attitude, by repeating a simple, memorable phrase as you apply the technique. Continue with as little interruption or deviation as possible, as far past his comfort level as possible, and you should observe a direct conditioned response to your training. For best results, reinforce your lesson by multiple sessions. This is a strong method for performance improvement, self improvement, behavior modification, and emotional release. It can also be a powerful tool for stress reduction, both in the mind of your man and on your relationship as a whole. You need not use this method to correct behavior, or to indoctrinate, as it is just as effective in teaching positives as it is negatives. This is not brainwashing, or some holywood version of mind control, so don't expect your man to become mindless. You can expect him to reflect deeply about himself, examine his own goals and motivations, and to begin to change his own mind about his actions or attitudes. Utilizing Domestic Discipline is something my wife and I have consensually evolved into after years of practicing spanking to one degree or another. For us, we started off playing with spankings before sex “ Fun Spankings“. This moved into us doing a little role playing. For one week, she would be my Mistress where she would command me to do certain things and dole out spankings for any misdeeds. The following week, I was her Master and the roles reversed. We incorporated the use of safewords (a word or phrase used to indicate when a spanking session was getting to be too much for the bottom), where we could test our limits and still have an out if we felt the need. There is absolutely nothing wrong with exploring fantasies, but it’s not really what most men in FLRs are looking for. In fact, the more it feels like role play, the less they are into it. Consensual non-consent, blanket consent, and “for any reason”Harry is the senior architect in our company, and yes, he rakes in a lot more cash than I do. Men at the top in our business get the cream while us workers make do with the skim. But this was still a surprise, I didn’t know that Susan even knew Harry Belcher. asking for a spanking Bedroom Submission Callipygous Commentary Dressed For Spanking erotic spanking F/M paddling Flashing foolishness Highly Spankable lingerie Love Our Lurkers Day Memories Men in Panties Paddles paddling panties Political Commentary Potpourri Schoolgirl paddlings school paddlings spanked in panties spanking spanking bench Spanking Parties Stories switching Uncategorized White Panties wtf Archives