Once you've found it, gently massage the prostate in the same way you would attend to a clitoris, gently at first with increasing pressure until you find a natural rhythm. that feels like you’re just wearing underwear, McDevitt suggests the Calexotics Scandal Panty Set, which looks like a sexy pair of If a person with a penis has a partner with a vulva, the harness can be worn by their partner to achieve anal penetration. Inch your finger in slowly until you feel him relax and become more accommodating to your movements. Take your time finding the appropriate size to control the device, the right fit will feel like an extension of the body. This is the best way to avoid inappropriate friction, chafing or accidents during penetration.

When it comes to pegging and penetrative sex, there are two main styles of harnesses: underwear and strap-on.

The Best Underwear-Style Harness: RodeoH Brief+

Ashley: "My first pegging experience was actually with one of my sex educator colleagues, which was great because he was very clear in his requests, and offered me tips—including the importance of using lots of lube."

Something machine-washable means you can wash it and not have to worry about germs or bacteria transmission,” says Sloane. This will make getting lube out easier too. When you're ready to peg, you will need a strap-on dildo and harness. If you can, buy your first harness in real life rather than online so you can try it on. Some harnesses are strappy leather and sexy as hell, such as the Minx Harness from Aslan Leather. Others are more practical, such as the TomBoii Boxer Briefs, which are ultra comfy and can hold a dildo in place like no one's business. Go with whatever works for you and your partner's desires.Pegging also requires immense trust; being penetrated anally with a strap-on dildo by a pro-domme or dominant partner allows cishet men to not only receive anal pleasure but become vulnerable and submissive, which is a common sexual desire. What products and techniques should I use? Aja: "I've known my friend for six years now, and we're both very sexually open and positive people, so we had been talking about me domming them for years. So it was kind of an inevitability." Harness play can also be incredibly enjoyable for vulva owners during sex. Depending on the shape of your body and where you position the harness for best thrusting, wearing a harness may lead to a clitoral or vaginal orgasm — or even a blended one. Shira: "I was young; it was almost 20 years ago, and it was exciting. My boyfriend at the time had gifted me a strap-on set for my birthday and asked me to peg him." Aja: "I get a lot of satisfaction out of making someone utterly melt with pleasure and ecstasy, both from the feeling of power it provides me, and just from making someone a quivering puddle. Pegging and prostate play with the right partners can provide all of that." What’s your advice for dudes who are interested in pegging but are too afraid to ask their female partners?