While plenty of the kink community is grateful to books and movies for the 50 Shades Effect of bringing bondage and power play into the public arena, there's a lot about the books and movies that should never be recreated or believed. (Like the idea that Christian is kinky because he was abused--something that even Psychology Today waded into to point out that people who are into BDSM are no more likely to have a history of abuse than anyone else.) First things first: communication, communication, communication. Discuss what you both want so you can come up with a list of things you both agree to. This Sovyime Expandable Spreading Bar is simple and straightforward while still looking attractive.

Spreaders are a bondage tool made up of a rigid metal bar with ankle cuff attachments on either end. They prevent the person wearing them from being able to close their legs, leaving them exposed and open to whatever fun torments you both have in mind. How Do You Use One of These? One of those things is the scene where Christian straps Anastasia into a bondage bar and then uses that bar to forcefully flip her over.It has the same shape and cuff placement as a traditional spreader but it’s flexible nylon. It doesn’t technically spread anything since you can fold the fabric in half but it can help you dip a go into the bondage world and see how you feel about this sort of position. Liberator has a completely unique take on the bar with the Talea Spreader Cushion. It’s a metal spreading bar contained within a cushioned pillow with a removable waterproof cover. This makes the bar a lot more approachable for beginners as well as more comfortable to have to lay on.

Keep in mind that these cuffs are attached to the bar and can’t be substituted. If you want a two-bar set with removable cuffs, go with Exreist’s set. Funny story, the same term used for this adult toy is also used for a certain type of rigging used in overhead lifting. They're not the same at all, but share the name. While we're on cuffs, make sure you're using something nice and wide to help distribute the pressure. Thin ropes can cut into to skin restricting blood flow and even damaging nerves. One last thing: it's metal. If someone is throwing their legs around in the throes of passion, these bars could deliver a decent bonk on the head to their partner. As much as pain can be fun, ending the night with a broken nose isn't on everyone's wishlist.Alright, this Beginner Restraint Set isn’t a true spreader rod but if you’re equal parts nervous and curious–this is for you. Adding to the bars, the kit includes a host of matching tools like a breathable ball gag (the ball had holes for comfort), a studded soft flogger, a blindfold, and a collar with a leash. Go with something made for bondage like this Leather Bond Padded Cuff Set or for something softer, this VP Leather Cuff Set with faux Chinchilla fur.

An article in Smithsonian Magazine cited numbers that 36 percent of American adults engage in bondage or kinky activities. That's 16 percent higher than the global average of 20 percent. America coming out on top. Are Leg Spreader Bars Only for Women? Fun (Untrue) Fact: In an interview with People Magazine, Jamie Dornan states that the spreader bar was invented by the 50 Shades books and so the only way it could be used in the movie was for the prop folks to build it from scratch. That is false. Breaking down for storage. Some designs pull apart into three smaller pieces making them easier to store and less likely to be identified by prying eyes if someone were to come across a set of thin metal rods under your bed. Why do you have those? No reason. You could even pass it off as personal protection. Careful with those cuffs. Never apply cuffs so tight they are uncomfortable or yank on the bar so hard or violently you could potentially sprain or injure someone's muscles. You're likely to injury your partner's ankles, knees, or hips and then playtime is over. Use the bar to restrain, manipulate and position your sub, but not to fling them around.Not in the slightest. if the success of the 50 Shades franchise didn't prove that to you, there have been a series of studies that show how common these desires and practices really are. It comes as part of a bondage beginner set that also includes a blindfold, two wide strips for tying, a breathable ballgag, and two additional pairs of velcro cuffs. The whole bondage community is giving you the side-eye here, Jamie. Why Are There So Many Construction-Type Results in My Google Search?